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NFP is not just for controlling family size…

Pope Benedict XVI offered an encouraging message to the recent meeting of the Equipes Notre Dame (translation: Teams of Our Lady), a pro-marriage apostolate. The Holy Father invited all Christian married couples to be “the gentle and smiling face of the Church.” There is no greater way for couples to achieve this than to joyfully open their marriage to the gift of life.

In our secular contraceptive culture, it is assumed that a married couple will, as a matter of course, avoid pregnancy. Only for very narrow windows of time does a couple welcome the conception of a child, if they do at all. Contrast this with the Catholic marriage that makes openness to life the default position. Occasionally, a couple may prayerfully discern that for a limited period of time there exist grave reasons why they should not conceive. Instead of resorting to contraception, however, the faithfully Catholic couple relies on one of the methods of Natural Family Planning (NFP) and abstains from marital relations when conception is likely. As an added benefit, when the couple is ready to resume having children, the same fertility awareness system will identify when sex is most likely to result in pregnancy.

The greatest benefits of NFP, however, do not necessarily lie in its usefulness to achieve or avoid pregnancy, in its safety or even in its ecological benefits. An often forgotten feature of Natural Family Planning is that it strengthens both the spiritual and emotional aspects of marriage. Couples who practice Natural Family Planning have a divorce rate of about 5%, markedly lower than the 50% divorce rate of couples who utilize contraception. Using NFP requires couples to communicate. They have to talk to each other about whether or not reasons exist to postpone pregnancy. They have to talk about whether or not it is a fertile time in the woman’s biological cycle. They do not treat their conjugal relations as mere recreation, but as a time to open their marriage to God’s will. Rather than distort their relationship with contraception, they exercise self-control as necessary for prudent parenthood.

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